'Happiness and Calm, how much do you really want it?'
Hello again Dear Friends,
How do you try and improve? How do you get better at your work? How do you get better at playing an instrument? How to get better at a sport? How do you get better at communicating?
Doesn't it essentially come down to practice? Remember the now famous words from Malcolm Gladwell's bestselling book, Outliers? Paraphrasing, "Most highly successful individuals became so after 10,000 hours of practice".
So, I ask. Would you like to be happier and enjoy life more? If so, how much are you willing to practice? Would you expect to improve your piano playing without practice? Would you expect to get more fit without more exercise? It really makes no sense to BS yourself about anything you wish to improve on. Are you willing to practice and put the effort in?
In actuality, I do get the distinct feeling that more and more people are practicing being happier. At least where I live in the Denver area I see more pleasant eye contact, more smiles, and more greetings from people of "have a great day!". It's subtle of course, but I recognize a true effort by many people to make their day to day life more pleasant.
In almost all my speaking engagements over the years I share a very simple 5 step approach to happiness which I continue to practice daily.
1) Smile first thing in the morning and continue to look for things to smile and laugh at: Smiling and laughing relaxes our body and just makes us feel good
2) Appreciate: Right after your first morning smile take some time to appreciate ALL the small wonderful things you have in your life. I mean the real basics we tend to take for granted: Our food, clothing, shelter, water, friendships, transportation, freedom......
3) Forgive: It's may be the most Godlike thing we can ever do. Forgive not only others but ourselves as well. Lack of forgiveness keeps us stuck and even paralyzed
4) Allow: We are all individual beings living our own unique life experience. Stop requiring others to see the world the way we do. Allow others to just be.
5) Greatly reduce consumption of the daily news and violence: The news paints a very unequal picture of fear and negativity. Why is a murder in Texas more newsworthy than a great act of kindness in Minnesota? Which one makes the headlines? If you really want to be happier, then stop subjecting yourself to daily news.
Sure, happiness feels good, but want another reason to be happy?
Are you happy when you get what you want, or do you get what you want when you are happy?
We are energetic vibrational beings living a physical experience where likes attract likes. Happy calm people attract more happiness and calm into their lives, it's so simple and so true! Stressed out chaotic individuals continue to attract more of the unwanted.
Hope this helps, give it a try.
With love and appreciation.