SOUL GROWTH AND THINGS (again)
Hello again Dear Friends,
One of the most gratifying aspects of writing this monthly letter is the regular feedback I receive from you, the readers. What makes it so interesting to me is how mistaken I often am about the content of each letter and the diversity of who responds.
Frankly, sometimes I complete the monthly draft and I’m just not sure how the message will be received and then, I get a slew of wonderful well thought out responses. Other times I think I just wrote the greatest monthly letter yet and I hear very little. It can be humbling, but I find it a good exercise for communicating from the heart without attachment to the response.
Last month I wrote about living life like a Golden Retriever and I adored the numerous responses from dog lovers and particularly those who have spent time with the Golden Retriever breed. It was nice to connect again with so many of you.
Why is life sometimes so darn hard, here on Planet Earth? Why is there so much selfishness and evil? These are two of the most common questions I get asked either at speaking engagements or in private consultation.
The answers to these questions is not difficult, but the “ what to do about it” is much more challenging.
When people tell me that life is harsh and even cruel they are generally speaking about the plight of others or their personal health, their money, or their relationships or perhaps all of them. Life is a roller coaster for everyone, but for some, setbacks become permanent roadblocks and for others they are only temporary detours used to find a better course.
We are all eternal Soul beings who have incarnated before numerous times and will continue to do so for thousands of years going forward. The physical experience here on Earth is for the purpose of Soul Growth and hopefully some joy; yes, we come to Earth in physical form to learn and grow. Each experience both good and bad acts as an instructor for our Soul Growth and better prepares us for future incarnations. For many of us Life gets more pleasant with age because we have had the opportunities to learn many lessons. If life is becoming more and more difficult with age perhaps it’s because we keep making the same mistakes without learning the lesson?
One of my favorite sayings when things are not going the way I would like them to be is “What’s my lesson, what’s my opportunity?” If we first pretend and then believe that all negative occurrences are just detours for a new and better destination we begin to understand and accelerate our personal Soul Growth.
Why is this so important to learn? So we don’t have to come back and experience the same discomfort over and over again, make sense? For a much greater understanding on this subject I strongly recommend books by Michael Newton PHD. His “Journey of Souls” and “Destiny of Souls” are both wonderful reads.
If we are here on Earth for Soul Growth why is it made so difficult with the evil and selfishness which seems to be all around us further compounding the situation?
Firstly I will answer this by saying there is not nearly as much Evil and discord as you would believe it’s just that the media searches it out diligently and presents it as common practice and the NEWS. If you would shut off your radio and TV and not read newspapers and magazines for just a few days you would be quite surprised how much calmer and less fearful you will become. From a place of less fear and calmness you will be much better equipped to handle personal life “issues” as they arise.
Next, remember that Earth is such a good teaching place for our Soul Growth because it is a “free will” zone. Yes, just about anything goes here and that gives us the free will to discern and act on the paths of our lives.
Changing topics, the subject of things or possessions as they relate to happiness seems to also come up on a regular basis. The discussion came up again last week during a conversation with a close friend, and we discussed lots about “things”. He had just made some money on a stock sale and was contemplating the purchase of a $75,000 car. He told me his boss was contemplating a purchase of his own private jet, and I was considering a purchase of a new set of $1,000 golf clubs. Earlier that very same day I spoke with someone trying to justify the purchase of his daily Starbucks latte and another individual trying to decide if he could afford the organic foods at the market. The jet, the car, the golf clubs, the latte, and the organic chicken are all “things”, and yes “things” are nice to have and there is nothing wrong with “things”.
The problem occurs when “things” dictate our happiness and personal self image. One of my favorite exercises is consciously feeling joy from ordinary day to day occurrences and making “things” only the cherry on the sundae. My list includes a hike in the mountains behind my house, lying on the floor with the dogs, a glass of wine with my wife at the end of the day, watching baseball on TV, and my morning meditation. What everyday activities bring you joy and pleasure that don’t involve buying new “things”? The longer the list, the more pleasant life becomes.
As always I look forward to any comments you may wish to share.
With love and appreciation..