"Honestly, are you getting what you want? Re-think your methods"
Hello again Dear Friends,
I spent well over half my life believing that getting what I wanted was a direct result of effort and goal planning. I always enjoyed hard work, and 60 hr work weeks seemed like the obvious way to achieve success so long as the efforts were concentrated and well directed.
It was about fifteen years ago that I began to rethink my beliefs relative to work effort and excessive goal planning. Frankly, this change in thinking was caused by not regularly achieving desired results and also just plain fatigue.
I remember clearly waking up one morning in 1999 and questioning why my new mortgage company was only marginally profitable and why my relationship life was lacking that significant other following a divorce years earlier. As I questioned my results, or rather lack of them, I was able to step back and understand where the missing link was?
As I share with you this missing link which changed my entire life please do not get the idea that goal planning and hard work are bad in any way, in fact, they are both key ingredients in the process of manifesting what we desire, there’s just more to it.
The missing link for me was the admission that as human beings we are both physical and non-physical energetic beings. With this being the case we must direct not just our physical efforts towards what we desire, but our energetic vibration as well, and this is where I was missing the ball.
When I speak of our non physical energy I am referring to the elements of our thoughts, our emotions, our beliefs, and even the energy of our spoken words. Back in 1999 I sure was working hard on the physical level, but in many cases my thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and words were directly contrary to what I was trying to obtain.
For example, where I was trying to build a profitable multi-state mortgage banking operation my thoughts were filled with the difficulty of getting good people and creating a competitive product. My emotions were fear based due to the formidable competition, and every time something went wrong my spoken words echoed Murphy’s Law. In other words I was working very hard without corresponding positive results, and I was just beginning to figure it out. Ultimately everything changed for the better (my business and personal relationship life) when I realized that my thoughts, emotions, spoken words, and beliefs had to match or be in total sync with my physical effort driven desires.
I learned to recognize and catch myself every time contrary thoughts and emotions were present and just as importantly, I learned how to change them. I decided there would be no more negative thinking, and no more fear based emotion relative to those things I desired most.
Once I figured out how to sync my physical effort with my non physical vibrational energy my life exploded with positive desired manifestations most notably in business and personal relationships. The ‘ how to ‘ is what I teach to my clients and groups today.
If you are not getting what you want relative to your finances, your health, or your relationships it’s either the lack of physical effort or the inability to consistently sync your thoughts, emotions, and your beliefs with your deepest desires!
Being is a state of appreciation is one of the most powerful tools for life happiness and success that I know. A friend of mine called me this week after a conversation with his mother in law who is slowly losing her eyesight. She is in her 80’s, wears an upbeat optimistic demeanor, and is an artist who loves to paint. My friend was empathizing with here about how difficult painting must be with lessoning eyesight. In typical glass half full fashion she replied “to the contrary, my appreciation for the feel of the paint brush, and large broad strokes has never been greater”.
Good and bad is often only defined by where our focus lies!
As always, with love and appreciation.