March 2010 Newsletter

RELATIONSHIPS FOR HAPPINESS AND PROSPERITY

Hello again Dear Friends,

Before starting in on the relationship topic for this month I would like to comment on some of emails that I received from subscribers over the past month. As most of you are quite aware I regularly write and speak about our ability to create our lives and consistently manifest our desires. I believe that we are at any given moment the sum of our thoughts, emotions, words, and actions, and that it requires a good deal of willpower and self-discipline and to keep these four elements on track.

With this in mind, many of you wonder why even when we diligently work on properly directing our thoughts, emotions, words, and actions that discomfort and painful events continue to be part of our life experience from time to time. The answer is that although we incarnate (bring our spiritual self into human form) to enjoy ourselves and be happy, we also arrive on Earth to learn some lessons for the growth of our eternal soul. Many of my life’s challenges are probably similar to yours; a divorce with young children involved, two business closures, and cancer in the immediate family. In all cases there were lessons to be learned, growth to be had, and then an opportunity to move forward with greater knowledge. Understanding, learning, and embracing life’s discomforts are key elements for our soul and spiritual advancement.

Now, let’s get on to relationships. So much of our happiness, success, and prosperity are tied to our ability to create and maintain close relationships. These would include relationships with friends, a significant other, and business. Below are some of the critical components necessary for building relationships:

*Choosing your focus on another: Doesn’t everyone we know have both some wonderful attributes and other elements we may not care for? At any given moment, we have the CHOICE of what we choose to focus. When you come home to your spouse tonight are you going to focus on his wonderful loving traits or the one’s which drive you crazy? What about your co-workers and friends? It is your choice!

*Whatever you think another is thinking you are WRONG: What I have observed is that so much upset between individuals is caused by what we think another is thinking, rather than what they are saying or doing. Stop believing immediately that you know what another is thinking, and then witness the calm that enters your relationships.

*It’s not your partner’s job to make you happy: So many of us put the responsibility of our personal happiness on our partner. I always hear things like, “If she would just to this” or “if he would behave this way” than I would be happy. Our personal happiness is an inside job and requiring other individual’s actions to be your source of happiness is creating an unsustainable situation for any relationship. If you cannot live with another person, and who they are at the core, then maybe it is time to examine the very purpose of the relationship. This brings us to the next pointer.

*Many relationships have a finite life: We all change, don’t we? Although it may be sad at the time, some relationships just run their course. Whether business or personal, sometimes it is just time to cut the cord. Never was this put clearer than after one of my recent speaking engagements. As I was getting ready to leave the venue a smiling older gentleman approached me and said “I am seventy-seven years old and the reason I smile like this is that I have learned to “weed” my relationship garden. I will no longer associate with those individuals that bring me down” Some very wise words, wouldn’t you say?

Learning to re-create our lives in these troubling times and enhancing our personal and business relationships are just two of the topics I regularly address in my speaking engagements and individual coaching. Can I assist you, your business, or your organization? Here are some of the groups I have addressed recently http://www.andyfeld.net/SpeakingReferences.php .  http://andyfeld.net 

 

My new book, “Wake Up! Your Life is Calling!”, addresses the evolutionary societal tipping point we now find ourselves at. On this topic I continue to work with Avenstar Productions on a 90 minute feature film which will be released this summer. It is a very exciting project I look forward to sharing with you all.

With Love and Appreciation,

Andy